Once people get married they often think the hard work has been done but actually is where the hard work with each other begins. This is where a lot of the problems start in marriage, however an investment in the marriage would go a long way from preventing and resolving problems that can occur after the ‘honey moon’ phase and real life happens.
A important point to be made here, is to take a step back and look at your marriage from a higher level, it is not only about yourselves: the Muslim community is made up of family units, if these family units breakdown it causes the Muslim community itself to become weaker. So as Muslim man and a leader of your family, ensuring the wellbeing of your family, goes far beyond the four walls of your home, you are a brick that makes a wall, if this brick was to fall, it weakens the wall and if many others fall, then the wall will also fall.
There is an alarmingly high divorce rate in the Muslim community. Even where there are marriages that have not broken down, without investing in the marriage it leads to the relationship being an unfulfilling experience.
It also important to understand here that prevention is better than cure, so stopping marriage problems happening in the first place is better than managing conflicts after they happen.
As an Islamic family coach, it is not my role to advise on Fiqh matters; these are for the local imams and scholars to advise. However, I include some basic Islamic advice based on speaking with imams and scholars and my own study.
